Our close relationships, whether with partners, family members, or friends, can be powerful sources of soothing, safety and regulation.  When we experience disconnection it can feel like a serious threat.  

Whether you are navigating challenges with communication, feeling stuck in repeated conflicts, or experiencing loneliness or inadequacy, this can cause significant pain and stress.

I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, which is the leading evidence based practice for relationship therapy (in other words, the approach that has been most successful for most people). In this work I help people identify patterns of interaction and the underlying fears and longings that drive these cycles.

Oftentimes the ways we interact in our adult relationships are rooted in the ways we interacted with our caregivers. We learned to behave in ways when we were small that helped to protect us and keep us close enough to caregivers, but as adults, these patterns can get in the way of the connection we want.

In our work together we will clarify your relationship cycles, explore the attachment feelings and needs underlying the patterns, and practice sharing these experiences directly with one another in ways the other person can receive.  This process de-escalates conflict, deepens connection and increases relationship satisfaction.